by: Pamela Crimbchin // theburr.com
As women focus more on their careers, the average age for marriage is getting higher and higher.
According to the US Census Bureau, the average age that a woman in Ohio was first married was 26.3 years old in 2008.
That means more college-age women are single and lovin’ it.
“Being single can be fun,” said Sarah Cucciarre, senior visual communication design major. “Think of it in a positive light.”
Photo from Sarah Cucciarre
Dating is exciting and can be beneficial to finding out what you want, or don’t want, in your partner.
Cucciarre thinks it’s important to know yourself before dating or starting a relationship.
“I find it’s easier to feel comfortable in a relationship and dating when you’re happy being on your own too,” Cucciarre said.
She suggests making sure that you have time to do the things you love and not put finding the relationship ahead of you.
It’s also important to have the support of friends when starting to date. Inviting your date to a group event can take some of the pressure off a one-on-one date. It also gives your friends a chance to say “yay” or “nay” to the potential partner.
Cucciarre said that while friends can sometimes see things you don’t, remember to listen to your instincts, too.
Sometimes a woman can see potential in a couple different guys and dating can get carried away. Make sure if you date multiple people to let them know about one another and not overbook yourself.
“Don’t try to plan six dates in one weekend,” Cucciarre said. “And don’t forget about school either.”
While it’s OK to go on dates with other people, make sure you’re not leading them on. If there is a connection growing with one, it’s a good idea to let the others know sooner than later, so you don’t break any hearts.
When on the prowl for a potential partner try to dress for the type of guy you want to attract. For example, if you are looking for a serious long-term relationship, you should probably not wear your lowest cut shirt, shortest skirt and highest heels.
“Dress classy,” Cucciarre said. “Try to avoid the race-y trends like tights as pants.”
Also, if a guy is trying to get your phone number, pay attention to how he asks because he could be looking for a booty call.
If he says, “Hey baby let me get your number,” really consider giving him this number: 413-497-0032 instead. When he calls it, he will be informed that he has been rejected.
Cucciarre said, “You can (also) ask for their number and never call them back.”
If he says, “Hey let me get your number, maybe we can grab coffee or something sometime?” He is probably OK.
It’s also OK to make the initiative and give your number without the guy asking, too. Just don’t obsessive over your phone the next couple days waiting for him to call.
“That’s one thing I did, was I sent him a message like, ‘Hey if you want to hang out this weekend here’s my number,’” Cucciarre said. “As long as you keep it in a causal way it’s cool.”
Because dating is a time when you’re looking for partners, Cucciarre said to watch out for “Stage-5 clingers” who contact you way too much right after meeting.
She also said to watch out for guys who give you the “hot and cold” treatment. Try to move on from these guys before a serious relationship starts.
After dating guy … after guy … after guy, it’s easy to believe that you will never find prince charming, but don’t give up hope! There is someone out there for everyone.
“You’ve got time,” Cucciarre said. “And don’t worry about all your friends getting married.”